The year 1968 was America’s busiest in Vietnam. Our troop strength would rise to
approximately 540,000 early in the year and would stay at that level until early the
following year when we started to wind down our efforts. On the ninth day of 1968 the
Class of ’64 lost its twelfth warrior, Charles Kirby Wilcox, an All-American young man
from the heartland. Like Denis Galloway, he was from Missouri, and was extremely proud
of his beloved home state.
At the time of Kirby’s death most Americans believed we had the upper hand in Vietnam,
which we did, despite a growing amount of protest. That attitude changed dramatically,
however, a short time later when the Tet Offensive began on the 30th of January. As had
been customary, a truce was agreed upon to commence that day, the beginning of the lunar
new year, so that both sides could celebrate with their families. At dawn the North
Vietnamese Army and the Viet Cong coordinated a massive attack on South Vietnam’s seven
largest cities and on thirty provincial capitals ranging from the Delta to the DMZ (the
demilitarized zone between North and South Vietnam). For the most part, the defenders of
South Vietnam were caught by surprise. Hanoi fully expected to topple South Vietnam with
such an all-out effort, but by the tenth of February had suffered a crushing military
defeat with over 50,000 killed and hundreds of thousands wounded. Despite the fact that
Tet was a significant military victory for the United States and South Vietnam, it turned
out to be a disaster for us, psychologically and politically. The enemy's ability to
achieve the element of surprise on such a large scale was exploited by the media and the
American public became convinced that the war was unwinnable. Even though we continued
to make military progress against a weakened enemy, domestic pressure prevailed and our
government decided that enough was enough. President Johnson decided not to run for
re-election and then later, his successor, Richard Nixon, started bringing the troops
home.
Kirby was born on 4 June 1942 in Springfield, Missouri, the son of Betty and Charlie
Wilcox. His younger sister, Patti, came along three years later. Father Charlie was
not a career military man but he was a veteran of World War II. As a boy Kirby was
active in scouting and was a standout Little League baseball player. At Parkview High
School, he was known as an all-around athlete, an excellent student, and a model
citizen. He lettered in both baseball and football and was the captain of the Parkview
American Legion baseball team when it won the state championship.
By the time he finished high school, Kirby had received athletic scholarship offers from
the University of Southern California, Arizona State University, and the University of
Arizona. He was also offered an academic scholarship to the University of Missouri. But,
quite early in life Kirby had expressed a desire to attend West Point and become an army
officer. So, when he received a principal appointment from Representative Charles Brown
of Missouri’s Seventh Congressional District, he disdained those other offers and headed
for the Military Academy to join the Class of '64.
The transition to cadet life was no problem for Kirby, although like most of his
classmates who hadn’t had a military background, he found the "Beast Barracks"
experience to be a rude introduction to his new world. One of the most dreaded events
that occasionally took place during that summer of 1960 was the clothing formation. The
first of those formations started out with Kirby and the other new plebes standing in
a company formation, awaiting instructions from the company commander while being
harassed by the rest of the cadre. Dressed in fatigues and combat boots, they were
expecting to be marched off to a lecture when the commander's voice echoed through their
ranks, "SMACKHEADS, IT IS NOW 1400 HOURS. YOU HAVE EXACTLY FIVE MINUTES TO BE BACK IN
THIS FORMATION IN DRESS GRAY OVER WHITE, UNDER ARMS. NOW, MOVE OUT!" As he ran back to
his room, Kirby almost couldn't believe that he was going to have to completely change
his uniform. Clothes flew all around the room as Kirby and his roommates rushed into the
new outfit, grabbed their rifles, and ran back outside where the upper-classmen descended
upon them for a frenzied inspection of their new attire. The latecomers were herded into
a separate group and berated unmercifully. Once again, the company commander’s voice
bellowed, "THAT WAS A GROSS PERFORMANCE, YOU DULLARDS. IT IS NOW 1410 HOURS. BE BACK HERE
BY 1415 IN GYM A UNDER RAINCOAT. MOVE OUT!"
This game continued for almost an hour. By then the new cadets had exhaustively donned
every type of clothing combination possible and were dripping with sweat. The conditioning
hike that followed was a welcome relief. Even the stressful nightly shower formations
seemed tame compared to the clothing formations. However, it was one way to learn what
each of the many uniforms entailed. And, it was another of many drills designed to teach
the new cadets how to function under pressure.
Kirby had always been able to perform well under pressure, and at the academy he was well
known for his calm and efficient approach in overcoming the many obstacles that each cadet
faced during the four years. He took academics in stride and found time for numerous
extracurricular activities. During plebe year he played baseball but gave it up for the
last three years in favor of intramural athletics. Kirby was chosen the Most Valuable
Intramural Athlete during his first-class year, and enjoyed the dubious honor of being
cadet-in-charge of the Goat-Engineered Football Game. This is an annual event that precedes
the Army-Navy game, which Army is supposed to win if the team of academic goats is
victorious. The Engineer (hives) team must have won that year.
He was a member of the Debate Council and Forum all four years and served as chairman of
the National Debate Tournament during his last year. Twelve of the twenty-four fallen
warriors of the class had participated in the Debate Council and Forum. Since its
membership was not that large, such a statistic would place it in the same unlucky
category as the Parachute Club.
Although French was his weakest subject, that didn’t stop Kirby from being a four-year
member of the French Club. During his first-class year he was also selected to be a
Rabble-rouser, an Army cheerleader. The selection criteria were the same as for
cheerleaders anywhere else: good looks, enthusiasm, popularity, and athleticism. It is
little wonder that Kirby was chosen to be the activities officer on the brigade staff
during his last year.
June of 1964 brought graduation, and Kirby returned to Springfield to marry his sweetheart,
Linda Lou Hanks. In August he reported to Fort Benning for Ranger and Airborne Schools,
after which he was assigned to the Second Infantry Division in Korea for a year. While
there he served as an infantry platoon leader and as aide to Brigadier General Gleszer
(the father of classmate Pete Gleszer), who was then assistant division commander of the
division. Upon his return from Korea in December 1965, Kirby attended the Maintenance
Officer’s Course at Fort Know, Kentucky, for twelve weeks. He and Linda then went to
Baumholder, Germany, where he joined the First Battalion, Thirteenth Infantry, of the
Eight Infantry Division. Because of the ongoing build-up of U.S. Forces in Vietnam at
that time, the army units in Germany were extremely short on personnel, especially
officers. As a consequence, during his sixteen months in the 1 / 13th, Kirby saw duty as
a platoon leader, company commander, battalion S-3 and battalion executive officer. The
latter two jobs were positions for majors and Kirby filled them as a brand new captain!
Despite the job challenges and seasoning that Kirby was experiencing, he knew that Germany
was not where he should be in 1967. His country and his classmates and other comrades in
arms were getting more heavily involved in the conflict in Southeast Asia and several of
his good friends had already died trying to stem the Communist advances in South Vietnam.
Kirby could not avoid doing his part—it was what he, as an American fighting man, should
do. Besides, in less than three years in the army he had already done everything possible,
and more. There was only one thing lacking—combat participation. So, that spring he
volunteered for duty in Vietnam.
On 7 June 1967 Linda and Kirby were blessed with a son, Curtis Scott, whose arrival made
both parents extremely proud and happy. A short time later they were all on their way
back to Springfield, Missouri, where Kirby settled his little family and went on to
Vietnam. Young Curt was seven weeks old.
In Vietnam Kirby was initially assigned as a staff officer in the First Cavalry
Division’s Support Command. In his letters he expressed a dislike for his support
duties, even though he knew that his job was a necessary one and that it was customary
practice to spend time in the rear while earning the privilege of commanding a company.
Occasionally he would see his old pal from the Cadet Brigade Staff,
Mike Nawrosky, who was already commanding a company in the division, and feel
twinges of envy. Larry Brewer, who was flying helicopters in support of the First Cav
at that time and saw Kirby often, recalls how anxious he was to get out of the paperwork
and into the action. Finally, after five months in the rear, Kirby got his wish and
assumed command on an infantry company. As an infantry officer, there was nothing more
important than combat command, and Kirby was ready for it, mentally and physically. As
fate would have it, however, after only two weeks on the job, the young captain was felled
by an enemy grenade while leading his company on a search and destroy mission near Bong
San.
It was another tragic loss—for his family, his country, and his class. In everything that
he ever attempted during his short twenty-five-year life, Kirby excelled. His performance
always drew praise and admiration. Whatever the task, Kirby could be counted on to give it
everything he had—and that is just what he did on the 9th day of January 1968.
Kirby was buried at the National Cemetery in Springfield, Missouri, on 18 January 1968
following a military funeral. Classmate Jim Mozden (who would die of cancer five years
later) served as escort officer, and Jay Bennett, Bob Hillyer, Mike Moran, Marty
Ischinger, Bill Kelley, and Mike Liebowitz served as pallbearers.
One of Kirby’s many close friends in the class was class president, Dick Chilcoat. They
had been roommates yearling year in F-1 and were reunited on the brigade staff firstie
year—Dick was the brigade commander. (As expected, Dick rose to major general and the
commandant of the Army War College.) He later reflected on Kirby: "He had accomplished
much in the few years given to him to spend on earth. He was a great son…and older
brother. His athletic prowess was obvious at all levels, as was his scholarship and
citizenship. And at the academy, his cadetship, leadership, and friendship were valued
as much as precious gold... he was a classmate extraordinaire. Upon graduation, he continued
to excel as officer, as husband, and as father.
"He personified the theme espoused in Rudyard Kipling’s immortal poem, If, which, in a
few short verses, captured the essence of what it takes to be a man. The last verses seem
especially relevant in Kirby’s case:
If you can walk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings – nor lose the common touch.
If neither foes nor living friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the earth and everything that’s in it,
And – which is more – you’ll be a man, my son!
"In some twenty-five years, Kirby Wilcox had filled '...the unforgiving minute with sixty
seconds' worth of distance run...' and he was '...a man, my son!' He earned and possessed the
personal and professional love of all who ever knew him…and, thus, he made history in his
own time because he touched our very souls and the depths of our hearts. And he endures."
Years later Linda married Keith Lindsay and the two of them enjoyed the pleasure of
raising Curt. Curt graduated from the University of Kansas with a business degree and
later earned a masters in finance from the University of Missouri. Like his father, he
has excelled in everything and is presently running the family business. He is also a
happy husband and the proud father of Kirby’s grandson, Ryan Scott. What a proud
grandfather Kirby would be!
~ Fallen Warriors The West Point Class of 1964 by John Murray |